Seriously, how often do you go about in life thinking things are okay, things will get better down the road, I can be happy then, or the like? This job, this car, this house, this person is good enough and I’m comfortable – I can settle for now. I mean, why bother to ask for more, strive for more when I already have exactly what I need or want?
I was speaking with a friend yesterday about how we’re each in our own way trying to find the joy in our lives. I said how I’ve released all the physical stuff that no longer brought me joy. And then we talked about other relationships and it hit me – in certain areas of my life, I’ve begun to settle and be comfortable with the way things are rather than continuing my journey into changing and evolution and growing. I’ve accepted being happy and content, but I was still lacking joy.
There is a difference between the two emotions, at least in my mind. Happy is fine, good, great even, under most circumstances. But feeling and being happy doesn’t necessarily make one’s heart sing, doesn’t make one brighten up full of light and life, doesn’t make one literally want to jump up and down with ecstacy. Joy is the step up from being happy and content and that’s one thing I’m trying to be more conscious of, trying to incorporate more joy into my life because that, to me, makes me feel so much more alive, more in the moment, more complete.
It’s odd and maybe a bit contrasting – yes, we’re supposed to be happy about being in the moment, all the while putting out there what we want next. I know I’m not the only one struggling with accepting what is while not getting attached or too caught up in what I am lacking. But I’ll be the first to admit right now – I am happy, I am content, but in this moment, I am not joyful.
Those moments of joy come to me when I am being loved up on by my furry companions, by immersing myself in a really good book, when I’m singing full out from the heart, those mornings when I can greet the sun in its ascent, those times I’m in nature just taking it in and realizing how insignificant my troubles are in relation to the big picture. They’re also when I can spend time with loved ones, sharing a meal or hot chocolate or tea and sharing good / great energy.
Now that I see that, I recognize it, and I want to bring more of those feelings more consciously into all aspects of my life. Can I challenge you to do the same? Can you see areas where you’d love to invite more joy into your life and being? What will it take for you to go for it? And of course, do you want a companion as your journey along? Contact me if you’d like me to come along. I’m up for a ride.