Just as the physical body needs a strong core in order to move around with grace and ease, so your mental and emotional bodies need a strong core in order to truly know what’s important to you, what goals and dreams are worth pursuing, and more. However, when was the last time you sat down and actually recognized those ideas and beliefs that are inherently yours and separated those out from what others have instilled into you?
I did an exercise a few years back where I asked a few of my closest friends what they saw as my core values. I was curious to know how I projected myself toward others and see if what they saw as “Melissa” was congruent with what I thought about myself. And the result? Well, the answers I received were absolutely humbling.
You and I are programmed in this society to be quick to judge and be harsh with ourselves. We have a serious knack for pointing out our faults and shortcomings and failures, even when others try to genuinely complement us and show us otherwise. This exercise helped me remember what was important to me, and continues to serve as a light or guide for me to use in my daily activities. For example, one friend had stated that “[music is a] significant means of expression for you and a big source of joy.” And yet, I often go about my days without said music playing, though I am fully aware of the joy and healing it brings. Time and time again, I am reminded of the importance of music in my life, having grown up with it always in the background. So one of my goals this year, resolution if you must, is to make it more of a priority to sing, create, play music as I know that truly makes my heart soar.
Now what about you? If you asked others what they thought was important to you and who you are at the core identity level, what would they say? Build up those strengths and grow into being the best You you can possibly be.